Heartbreak in a relationship tends to be a very painful thing. It could actually make you behave in a different way and also can easily force you to do and say stuff you usually would most likely not say. It can also make you overlook and ignore the things which are most significant to you, like family members, work, and eventually your own destiny. Heartbreak could potentially cause you to totally change, and worry of ever owning a very good romantic relationship again.
I’ve experienced heartbroken many times; however when I took some slack from relationships and I learn to have an understanding of who I was, I found love again and I have been involved romantically with the same man for about 6 years now!
While we all will probably face heartbreak at some stage in our lives, there are a few things that you can take note of when dating. Below you will discover ways a romantic relationship could cause you heartbreak. Once you can detect them then you can certainly stop yourself from going through another painful relationship.
Unmet expectations – Most women enter their relationships with hopes of being happy, safe, secure, and loved unconditionally. But when their expectations don’t line up with her boyfriend’s expectations this can cause conflict, disappointment, and even anger.
Betrayal – In most cases there is an expectation that her boyfriend will be faithful, but when he cheats it can be hurtful, especially if the woman has given herself sexually to him.
Circumstances – Life happens, whether it’s death, job loss, the person moving, or just an attitude change. When unexpected situations occur and you’re not prepared to deal with them, you can be tempted to become heartbroken, especially if this circumstance brings an end to the relationship.
Fear – This can lead to heartbreak because if you’re ready to take the next step and your significant other is not ready for a marriage commitment, this can hurt. If you’re not careful, you could allow him to string you along in the relationship for years, only to tell you that he no longer wants to be with you.
Not asking the right questions – Often when you’re in love and you want to believe the best in your boyfriend, it’s easy to avoid asking questions that are critical to a healthy relationship.
So you continue in the relationship, and when you find out some things that could be damaging to you and the relationship, you’re faced with a 2 choices:
- Try to work it out
• Walk away
Either way, you must make a decision. But it can be difficult, especially if you have shared so much with him physically, emotionally, sexually, and financially, already.
Often times we find ourselves heartbroken because we expect people to become so much to us. We tend to put pressure on people to become something they could never be. And then when they disappoint us we tend to believe that relationships are worthless.
But that’s not the case. Relationships can work if you learn how to work them out.
Relationships take work, but there are some things you need to do in order for them to work effectively. If you want a good relationship, you must do your part.